It is a common known fact that many women struggle with self-esteem. Some women have expressed the struggle with self-worth and even post-abortion syndrome after their abortion. With February being the month of love, we want to help you take to heart some key reminders and tips we have learned along the way to help you healthily love yourself.
Although you may be one of the thousands of women who have experienced an abortion, you and your story are unique. On a planet of over 7.8 billion people, there is no one like you! Your story, the good, the bad and the ugly is a part of you. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like just a number you’re more significant than that!
Forgiveness is a big part of self-love!
If you haven’t taken the time to walk through forgiveness, which we get— it’s beyond difficult— doing so can set you free from the bondage of hurt. Forgiveness and healing are worth it! Given each individual’s circumstances, this can take anywhere from a matter of weeks to a matter of years. But when you find forgiveness and healing for you, you are better equipped to help others with their hurts and wounds. If there was anything 2020 taught us, it was that we are much more intertwined than we initially thought. Our wounds can sometimes bleed out on others, but in turn, so can our healing. You have the choice to decide how you want to impact others.
You’re brave — even bulletproof in a way!
If you’ve forgotten to tell yourself today, let us say it for you: You’re brave! You’re still here! Every single struggle up until this point, you have made it through. In a way, you’re bulletproof until this point. Don’t forget this. Sometimes looking back at our past hurdles encourages us to face the present one. You, my friend, are incredibly courageous.
Yes, you read that right. Someone is always looking up to you. Maybe it’s your kids, or your nieces or nephews, perhaps it’s a kid in your neighborhood, but someone is always watching. And someone needs to hear your story. Because hearing other people’s stories gives us the courage to keep pressing on.
As humans, we are prone to make mistakes and prone to talk badly about ourselves. We sometimes say things to ourselves we would never say to anyone else. In addition to these characteristics as a human, we also need help from time to time. Suppose you find yourself in need of healing from your past abortion. In that case, we offer a referral to an options-based approach to emotional and spiritual healing for women who would like to process their experience and come to know restoration from the impact of abortion on their lives. You don’t need to find your healing alone.
Why not spend February by learning to love yourself well? You can reach out to us, here.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. —Elisabeth Kübler-Ross